Monday, 10 November 2008

Introduced

It was the second one actually :D I know my mother so well! I couldn't find any good bottle to suit the meal, so I came with peanuts because she needed some. We were going to eat indonesian spicy food, and I thought it was not worth drinking an expensive bottle of bordeaux with a spicy meal.

I was in front of the door, with a little anxiety, because I never heard anything else about him than his name mentionned by my mother once in a while, and never saw a picture or anything. It's a bit strange considering that they have been together for more than two years. We never were really talkative about our private life with my mother: she never asked about our girl/boyfriends and we never asked her about her boyfriends. Since my parents divorced about 10 years ago, she had a few, and it was some stories that were not really nice to live when we were still at home, but since we left with my sister we have no idea of what is going on at her place.

I rang, and my sister opened the door. My mother came to welcome me, she was bright, had a radiant smile, and seemed happy and relax, wich is very rare. She's most of the time stressed, had a really bad temper and although she can be nice and smilling sometimes, she often turns into a tornado within a minute without any warning. I followed her in the living room, where he was sitting in a corner in an armchair. We said a few words of introduction, and had some wine. He seemed immediatly so shy, with a evasive look, speaking with his hands in front of his face, as if he were trying to hide. He didn't spoke that much, unless it was to agree with my mother. My mother and my sister went to the kitchen to prepare the meal, and we were left alone in the room. We had a random talk, and he seemed to me quite an interesting and clever guy, although he seemed of a really shy and weak character.

We ate and discussed altogether, and when we left (I had to take my train and my sister wanted to leave with me) we both agreed with my sister that he was a nice guy, funny and clever, and that he was ok. As long as they are happy together, I'm happy for my mother.

When I was going out of the bus, I was going to say bye to my sister, and she said that she was going down too. I asked why, and she said she had to withraw money at the bank. I was thinking that it was really strange and wondered what she was hidding to me, and guess who I met at the bus station? Her ex-boyfriend, the drug addicted guy that was a jerk and that she said she would never see again. I'm desperate... I guess that she's dating him again, and it makes me so angry! She's so stupid sometimes! After all she's been through and all we had to care about her with my father after she broke up with him, it starts all over again and it's for sure heading the same direction. If only I was a bit taller and stronger...! I know that he made some things against the law, and that he's under a suspended sentence because of older infractions, and if the police knew some things he could go to jail for a while, and I thought that I could do something... but it would be really bad and I don't like this idea, though it would be rather efficient. I wish I knew what to do to keep her away from him.

4 comments:

Aek said...

I'm glad you had a good time with your mom, her boyfriend, and your sister. Sucks to hear about your sister getting back together with her ex, he doesn't sound like a good person for her. I wish I had some advice to tell you about this situation, but I'm afraid I'm just as clueless as you.

Good luck with it all though.

charlie said...

Thanks for your support! I'll find something... I'm thinking about bringing my american roomate to Lausanne, he's single and rather good looking... ;)

naturgesetz said...

It must really hurt to see your sister heading for trouble, especially when her earlier experience with that guy should have taught her better. Being helpless is so frustrating. If you think there's a chance that introducing your American roommate might work, go for it.

Glad the meeting with your mom's bf went well and that he seems at least okay.

Anonymous said...

Be strong man, be strong. If she's going to date jerks like this, getting rid of one won't solve the problem. She'll just get another equally bad (or maybe worse) to fill his place.

Just be there for her, be a friend, be a brother. Let her know that you disapprove of the situation and her choice, but don't push too hard. There's nothing really (legal) you can do about it.

Good news about the step-father though!