I left Basel on Saturday in the afternoon. I went to say my goodbye to the landlady, and she invited me to have a drink. We talked for an hour, and then I took my things and went. I get a present, and as she was giving it to me she started to cry gently.I asked if everything was allright, and she huged me, and said "yes, but you know, it was really so nice to have you here... anytime you come back, just come and say hi, ok?" I thought it was a bit weird, considering that we were talking sometimes, but nothing beyond polite conversation between two people that live in the same house. At least I know where to sleep if I have a problem in Basel one time :)
Last weekend I had my friends at home for a party. It was fun, but all my guy friends couldn't come except one, and it was only girls. I don't mind that much, but it's always better when you have a balance between the two groups. The day after I had my family here, and my mother introduced her boyfriend of three years to the rest of the family. It was also nice to have them at home. And now my cellar is full of very good wine bottles :P I already reserved the best one for Stan an me for next week. I have to find what to eat with it now.
Erik finally answered saying "In retrospect, good you didn't stay overnight, I have flu, feeling bad." I didn't know what to answer, so I just wrote "get well" and that's all.
Yasmin was here a moment ago, and she keeps asking why nothing happened with her friend that visited me in Basel. I kept saying no to all the answers she was making for me, and she said I should tell her, because I can trust her, and that she considers me as a brother now etc. I wanted to come out to her, because she's always coming at home, and we are always together at the uni, so one time or another she will know, and it's better if it's not a surprise... but she was talking about a bar she went before coming here, and said "well, it's nice but full of fags, and I think it's so bad, when you see such handsome boys that are gay, such a waste! and I know how they are, all they want is just to have one night sex, they have no idea of what love is, it disgust me... etc." it cut my will to tell her. I don't know if she could understand. Sometimes she doesn't seem to care, but sometimes she can say some very strong things against gays. The thing that is really annoying is that she keeps trying to find a girl for me, and try to hook me up with some, and then I'm face to face with the girl and don't know how to get rid of her. It can't go on this way.
So, enough for tonight, I have to be able to wake up early tomorrow.
4 comments:
Good news on the job.
Tell her to stop hooking you up man! Seriously, you don't even need to tell her why. Tell you you don't want to be bothered with that now, and that she has a poor choice. Sheesh, no reason you should have to suffer through that.
Wow, it sounds like you've been busy. :) I'm glad that your landlady knows you and liked you.
I bet you really get annoyed at your friend Yasmin. o.O That would really annoy me.
Wishing you the best! :D
I think you should tell Yasmin even if she made those comments, ppl usually see it diffrently once they know someone for real who's gay. Her comments were more ignorant than homophobic and there's a big diffrence!
She's trying to be helpful because she thinks you're straight. The easiest and most effective way to get her to stop is to come out to her. So it's a question of whether you want to be direct and let her know now, or whether you think it's safer to be in the closet with her for now.
Maybe James's suggestion would work — just tell her to stop fixing you up. If it does, that takes care of it.
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