Gay rights in Switzerland, and a specific matter

I had a very intersting day today. It was my fist session of legal assistance. There is a legal council in our university with master students, and we treat some cases submited by anyone from the university or from outside. The aim is to give a first legal opinion on any matter submited to us. It's very useful both for us and the people, for us because it provide us some real cases to treat, and for them because they can get some advice for free.

The first case today was very complicated, but so interesting! I can't say the details because we are subjected to confidentiality, but it was about gay rights in Switerland. I will just write some important points about the state of gay unions in Switzerland, wich could be interesting for some of you.

Switzerland has adopted a law allowing same sex unions with basically the same rights as marriage. Gay couples are treated almost equally compared to married people. The big remaining difference is that the gay couples are denied the right to adopt children. The gay unions are officially called "registered partnership" (how poetic...). Basically, this goes in the right direction, as the gays and lesbians have now the right to commit in a civil partnership according most of the rights accorded to married people.

There has been a lot of political efforts to bring birth to this law. Some states in Switzerland (wich is, as the USA, a federal country, with 26 states) are catholic, and very conservative politically speaking, and some others are very "open" and liberal, mostly the states where the biggest cities are located. All the laws voted by the parliement can be submitted to the people for a referendum, and can therefore be refused. The problem for the parliement was to edict a law that could be accepted by the people, and a compromise had to be made between the different political sensibilities. Allowing marriage to gay couple was out of option. Doing so seemed impossible, as the people, in the case of a referendum, would for sure have refused it, because it was going to far. But the necessity to allow rights to homosexual couples was obvious. This compromise was finally found, and submitted to the swiss people, wich accepted it with a "yes" rate of about 58% (if I remember well).

It is a good thing I think, because we avoided the debate about marriage, with all the traps linked to it, the conflicts with the traditionnal and religious conceptions.

The law is good, but there are a few bad points. Appart from the problem of child adoption, a big problem comes from the designation of the official civil status. Married people are "married" on the official papers, while, logically, gay couples are listed as "linked by a registered partnership".

Here lies one of the problem that we treated tonight: when you want to be hired, and go to a job interview, the future employer has the right to ask questions about your civil status, as it can be important for him because he may have to know it (in order to establish the official documents for the social insurrances for instance). Therefore, you have basically no choice but to make your coming out to your employer if you are linked by a registered partnership, whereas you wouldn't have to do it if you weren't officialy together, because the sexual orientation is considered to be part of the very private life. This is, according to me, beyond reasonnable, it is a discrimination against gay people. It can lead to a disadvantage, knowing that homosexuality is far to be accepted by everyone.

Any discrimination based on the sexual orientation is forbidden by our constitution, and it would be easy to point it out in front of a constitutionnal court, but the problem is that, in Switzerland, believe it or not, there is no constitutionnal court! The respect of the constitution is verified by the parliament when he does the laws. The constitutionnality of the federal laws cannot be examined by any court!

In our case, it means that the discrimination generated by this law (wich otherwise is a very good inovation), although not compatible with our constitution, cannot be eliminated by any other way than a political action, and a modification of the different laws involved, and there is no political intention of doing so.

So, tonight, we, little students, decided to search for a legal way to make that change. I'm full of enthusiasm for this first case (especially because I could also be concerned in a few years), but I know that the chances are not far from zero. There are however other important questions in this case, wich could be easier to answer.

Master

Hi guys!

I started the lessons last week, and discovered my new professors, courses, and mates. As I'm staying at the same university, I already know most of them, but I made a few new acquaintances. Alessandro still sits next to me as last year, and it's great to be with him at the lessons.

It's very interesting, because we are mixed with some people who are doing a master degree in penal prosecution, wich mixes law courses and forensic sciences, and we have very interesting discussions. I thought about doing this master myself, as I'm very interested in penal issues, but gave up the idea when Maria told me about some awful experiences she had had on crime scenes... The idea of being present during autopsies of heavily injured or rotten bodies discouraged me. But although I don't plan to be a prosecutor, I still keep the idea of being a penal lawyer.

I have no more news from Lucas, but after a few days, I don't care that much anymore. I was really down during two days, but then, I realised that I was sad to have lost an opportunity, and not really what I had. I mean, I was thinking about how it could be great to be with each other, but without knowing anything of him. It felt good to be with him, but as it would with any other cute guy. After all, I have no real experience of a relationship. And there has been so many "void" years before I accepted my homosexuality, that as soon as I have someone kissing me I think that I'm in love. I've been in love, but I've never lived it with someone who loves me in return, and maybe that's why I feel so urged to be in a relationship. But it doesn't happen like that. I slept with two guys, and it was wonderful to discover all these new feelings, but I don't know if we would have had anything to share, other than sex. I'd like to meet someone with whom I can share something. To start with the sex doesn't really seem to be the best solution... After that I felt bond, I felt as if something was necessarily going to come out of this, but it didn't. Well, I think that I have learnt that there is a difference between sex and love. I discovered the first with an immense satisfaction, and some bitter desappointements, and I hope now to find the second with a bit of luck.

I had a call from Stan on skype, and I was so happy to speak with him! He told be about his trip in Rio di Janeiro, and about his new stard in the UK. I'm maybe going to pay him a visit this winter. I had planned to do so in spring, but he said he didn't want to wait that long, and neither do I :) We talked about some very personnal stuff, and I'm so happy to have someone like him to talk with.

This autumn and winter will be busy. I decided to subscribe to a national oratorical competion for the law students with Alessandro, and it will need a lot of work. The first selection is in early November, and, if we are among the best, the final would be held in front of a federal court in februrary. It is a really big challenge, and I hope that we will be good enough to pass the first selection. In between, I'll go to visit Istanbul just after the new year, and before my exams. If I find a free slot, I'll pay a visit to Stan.

On another topic, I had my last three wisdom teeth removed yesterday. This time I went to a real surgeon in a private clinic. I saw the difference with the other one! It went quick and easy, with explanation and medication. But the price is... hum... astonishing... :/ Well, it's an investment, I learnt last time that when it's about health, you better have to put the price! It's good that I have some money here or there.

See you!

Charlie

What can you say when a love affair is over?

I got a mail from Lucas, and it's not great news... It wasn't really a surprise after last Friday. Well, he says he has a lot on his mind, he hadn't moved on from his last boyfriend, does not want any commitment now with all the work he has at the univerity, and blamed alcool for what happened between us. So, it's over... I felt really bad yesterday, when I received it, I felt sad and angry. Sad because even if I didn't know what would happen between us, I was feeling good with him. Angry because I don't understand how it can go from "you're the nicest guy ever, I feel so good when I'm with you, I want to see you again" to that in just a few days. Maybe I gave the impression to want too much too fast, but when a guy says such things, how would you react? Play like you're not interested? I don't know... I don't know what and if I did something wrong. I wish I could learn something from that but I dont know what. Maybe to be less enthusiastic, more careful. I'm sad that he didn't decide to give a try, without thinking too much about what would happen.

It'll take me a few days to recover I guess...

Smoke on the water

This was a horrible day. It's one of these days when I'm horribly angry and just want to scream and destroy something. This all started yesterday I guess. I had planed to go have a walk with Lucas. I wanted to a place called Caux, over Montreux, and wher there is an astonishing view on the lake and the Alps. I thought that it would be a nice wather, and that we could have a walk, lie down somewhere in the grass under a blue sky, and have a nice time. This is how it looks by nice weather:

Wonderful isn't it? It was supposed to be, but instead, arriving on top, we found ourselves stuck in the fog, and it looked quite depressing. Moreover, everything was wet, and instead of the great romantic promenade I had planned, it was more like a fight to make a step in the mud without slipping. Great... So, no lying down in the grass. After a long walk in the forest, wich, with the fog, looked totally like one of a horror movie, I finally found a more a less dry bench, with the view on... nothing. Well, I asked if he wanted to sit for a moment (I didn't really need to sit, I just wanted to have a quiet place to kiss and talk, and was hoping he would understand) and he said "Are you tired? I don't really want to sit here, there is nothing to see" I insisted that we would sit, and we started to talk. He was looking at some ants on the ground, and I was wondering how he could think of anything else than looking at me and kiss me. He was going on speaking, and I came closer, put my arm around his shoulder, and he was still looking at the ants and speaking. I started to rub is back, very smoothly, and then caress his neck hair. Nothing more. I started to kiss him on the neck, and expected him to turn his head and kiss me. No reaction. I got so confused... how could he be so unreactive after the weekend we had had? He just put his head on my shoulder for a minute, and then four peoples on bikes arrived out of nowhere, and he woke up and proposed to go to look at the village down the path. I was so frustrated and confused...

We went down to the village, this event really killed my enthusiasm. We spoke of insignificant things like how nice was this chalet or that, and I really felt bad, a mix of disappointement, frustration, and other mixed feelings. We took the train down to Montreux, and when we arrived at the station, I asked if we could meet again at my place this week, and he said "yeah, we'll see, I have a lot to do this week you know" and this totally killed me. I went home, so confused, and didn't know what to do. I didn't do anything, and this morning just wrote a nice text, and got no answer. So, this drove me mad the whole day. I was also going to see Stan, who came back from Brazil, and is going for one year in the UK, so this was my last chance to see him before long, and he called to say he had no time. You can imagine in what state I began my evening... Luckily, a good friend called, and we went to have a drink in a bar, and now I feel a little bit better, but I'm still wondering what happened with Lucas, and hope that it is only a misunderstanding or something... :/

When I can't control my feelings, it really drives me totally mad...

Beautiful Switzerland

I'm just back from a dinner with Maria. We went a place well known for the beautiful view on the lake, and the restaurant's cheese fondue. Hum... not my favourite plate at all, I hate cheese, but I knew there was other things to eat. I love this place, I was used to go with my grand-father and I have a lot of good memories. This is also why I love it:

I love where I live so much! I hope that I will never have to move to another place in my life. Yesterday I had a little training flight, I wanted to go to land on another airport, but I had some trouble with the radio, and you're not allowed to land if you can't have any contact with the air traffic controler, so I made a little local flight and went back. The weather was absolutely perfect, and it was awesome! See by yourself:

On the very right of the last picture is one of the biggest chocolate factory of Switzerland :P

Oh, and by the way, I received the results of my exams, and I did good :) Great!

Discovery

Nothing to do with the space shuttle mission here, but about new things I learned with Lucas (the doctor). Don't read it if you don't want to know what happened in my bed this weekend...

I told you that I had reached a new height in pleasure, that's the story with some details :) So, Lucas came here, and we ate, and then went to the living room, where we started to kiss tenderly and speak of some things, in order to know each other a bit better. It was really sweet, but also horny. I was rock hard from the first kiss and was gently wetting my pants with precum... after a little hour of sweet kisses, things started to get a bit hotter. I put my hand in Lucas's pants, and noticed that he was as excited as I was, and his pants as wet as mine. I started to rub his dick, and he did the same. I stood up, and took him by the hand to the bedroom. We felt on the bed, and started a passionnate make out session. He started to unbutton my shirt and ran his hands and tongue on my chest, while I was caressing his back and malaxing his butt cheeks. I threw my shirt away, and removed his t-shirt. We made out like that for a few minutes, after what whe took of our jeans and boxers. I took both our cocks in my hand, and started to jerk us off, rubbing my dick against his, lubrificated by our precum. It was already quite hot as you can imagine :P He very sooned started to ask for more, and we sixty-nined for a while. He started to run a finger between my cheeks, and started to tease my butt hole, and soon put his finger in it, and that excited me even more if that is possible. After a few awsome minutes, we started to kiss again, and I asked if he had any idea of what to do next, he put a finger in my hole, made a kinky smile, and said "mmm... don't know... what about you?" and I said I thought we had the same idea.

I went to take a condom, some lube, and proposed him to go first. I put the condom on his dick, lubed it, lubed my hole, and went to sit on him. With him it went very easy. I was just a little tense at first, but we kissed and I relaxed. His dick slid genlty into my hole, until the very last inch. It was much more confortable than with Erik, most probably because Lucas is much nicer and careful than him. We started to moove, gently, and then harded, varying the position, and it was so exciting... omg... I was not far to cum without even touching myself! after a moment, he started to shake, and said he couldn't held no more, and shortly after he came inside me. I went to throw the condom away, and came back, and he sucked me until I came.

We spooned for a moment, and very soon I was rock hard again. We started to make out again, and I started to tease his hole. I asked if he wanted to do it, and said yes. I took another condom, lubed my dick, his hole, and started to finger him. I was a bit nervous because it was the first time I was the top. Erik was much too nervous and I could never penetrate him. I was very excited, but nervous, and not totally hard. But Lucas arranged that for me. I finally entered his hole, and started to discover a hole new world :P It was not at all what I expected. I thought that it would be really warm and very sensitive and sweet, and I don't know if it was because of the condom, but it felt more like a vague sensation of pression around my dick. Very agreable though :) At first, he was on his back, and I was on top. I took him and balanced us to that he went on top of me, riding my cock. It was more intense. He was going up and down and I started to feel that I was going to cum, but couldn't reach the very last moment. I balanced again, went on top, and started to fuck him faster. He was jerking him off, and came all over his chest. At that moment I went much slower, and it is where I came. I was going very slow, and I felt the pleasure coming, I started to shake, like when you have a lot of fever, my arms went weak, I couldn't breathe anymore, and I came... oh my god... I never felt anything like that... I almost fainted...

I collapsed on him, still inside him, my cock having some last spasms, and we stayed like that for a minute. I took my cock out and he went to take a shower.

We spend ther rest of the night in each other arms, and it was so good. I woke up around 10, and went to buy some croissants for breakfast. I came back, undressed again, and went back to the bed, and woke him up by kissing him. He was rock hard, and so was I, and we fucked another time before going to take a shower and have breakfast.

It was probably the best weekend of my life :)

So Aek, enough details? ;)

:)

I had my last exam this Thursday, I'm so glad that it's over! Now I have a week free before starting the last step at the university. I invited the doctor at home to celebrate. I prepared a good italian meal: Saltimbocca alla romana (it's a veal escalope prepared with a sage leaf and a prosciutto slice, with a white wine and lemon sauce, yummy!) and Panna cotta for the dessert.

We had a wonderful time together. He's really fun and laid-back, I like that :) It's so good to have someone to be with. He's doing all what I dreamed of without even asking. I also reached a whole new level in pleasure during this night... oh my god :P

If the weather allows it I'm taking him for a little plane ride at the end of the week. I know a little airport in the middle of the alps where you can rent bikes and cyle around, it could be great.

Great end for the vacation :)