I went at my father's to eat yesterday, and I'm a bit worried about him... he's going to retire in three month, and he is quite depressed about it, and he begins to be quite paranoid about all the guys that will run his job after him. As usual I am unable to tell wich part is true, and wich part is paranoia, but I'm sure that he over-reacts about what's happening. He says he's being mobbed and that everyone avoid him in the corridors, and that nobody speaks to him anymore etc... I don't know if it's true, but I know that he's not going well at all, and that it's not gonna go better in the next few month. I don't know how we are gonna deal with that with my sister. We would like to do something for him, but he's so boring when he's like that that we can't bear him for too long a time. Are we horrible selfish kids?
Well, I hope that it's gonna be better when he'll be definitely out of office.
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And my father can't wait to go to the retirement :) lool
Well, I don't know what to say, tell him that he will have the time for himself after retirement and do all the stuff he didn't when he was working... I can see that he loved his job...
Does he have plans for his retirement you can talk with him about? If not, can you encourage him to make plans, give him suggestions? Are there groups or organizations with activities for retirees? Does he have hobbies or interests he can spend more time on?
The point is, he needs to have something to do, hopefully something that will get him out and interacting with other people.
And if he begins to have plans, he might even start looking forward to his freedom from the job.
A lot of people who have things to do after retirement say they don't know how they found the time to go to work every day.
Maybe you and your sister will have to lead him to get involved in activities that interest him, but it should not require constant involvement from you. Eventually he should be involved with his contemporaries.
Wow, you travel a lot! I'm kind of jealous.
Your father sounds like he needs a hobby outside of work to keep his mind active during retirement.
Don't be jealous Aek, it was not a long trip: half an hour by boat lol!
Yep, he definitely needs to do something, but the problem is that he has no friends, he cut all the contacts he dad with his friends when he divorced my mom, and appart from his wife he never sees anyone else. He likes paiting and putting boats in bottles, but I don't see him do that for the rest of his life...
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